I've always said that I have no regrets. Everything that I've been through, good, bad or indifferent has made me the person I am today. While I'm still a work in progress, I feel pretty all right with who I am. So why would I regret the choices that have made me, me? At least, that's my working theory. I have my moments of doubt for sure. Recently I heard two little words that made me realize that I do wish that there are some things I'd done differently.
Those are the words that absolutely cut me to the bone. Things happen the way they're meant to. I truly believe that. I just know that had I known then what I know now, I'd choose differently than I did. The aftermath of those words reverberating in my mind is that I began to look back at my life and think about the things I'd do differently had I known better at the time. Nothing can be changed now and I wouldn't want to have a re-do even if I could. I just look back with melancholy at a few situations I've been through. Yes, apparently hindsight is 20/20 and all the other cliches in that same vein.
I know that I'd have chosen my words more carefully. I'd think longer and more meaningfully about making decisions that not only affected me, but also people I cared deeply about. I'd answer the phone more and rely on voice mail and caller ID less. I'd have given myself the benefit of the doubt much more often. I would have valued friendship more and fleeting romance less. Apologies would have been more abundant.
Life is like that I guess. You fall in love, you make friends... You think you know more than you do. Friendships fade if not tended to. You second guess that love you fell in. You stumble and fall. You make bad decisions. Not everything winds up the way you planned it. You get lost on your way to a dream. Maybe you find a better one. Maybe you're still figuring it all out. And maybe, just maybe, that melancholy you feel about the things you should've done differently becomes part of the fabric of who you are. Maybe it makes you stronger and wiser.
Today's title is from "Second Chance" by Faber Drive.